Happy Mother Challenge - Day 2.
"Accept that cultivating your friendships takes work and commit to
doing that work this week. Think of the two or three women in your life
that mean the world to you. Pick up the phone—and no, don’t text your
girlfriends–CALL THEM. Chat, even if you just have 5 minutes to catch
up. Do whatever it takes to create a habit of touching base with these
women—think of them as your tribe—weekly. Create a calendar reminder,
put it in your iPhone, place a sticky note on your fridge—anything that
makes you stop and pick the phone to connect with these women that will
mean so much to you over the years.
After you’ve completed this week’s exercise, make a
mental note of how it made you feel to connect with your inner circle of
friends. Now, go back and re-read the list you made last week and
reflect on who you are as a mother and the friends that encircle you.
Soak in those good feelings and know that you are loved."
I'm going to admit that I neglect my friends. I always have. My mom had a major fall out friendship with a good friend with her's after high school, I think it was in her 20's. She would tell me that the people that you're closest with would hurt you most. It's just best to not have close friends. So, that was instilled in my head really early on, as long as I can remember. She would always tell me to be careful when I got close to any friends. I forced myself to put a wall up. I know she only told me this to prevent me from getting hurt... but I think it made it worse. I had a major fall out with my best friend in college. I knew her for a very, very long time. She was (and still is) a wonderful person. I finally got around several years after college and apologized to her. It was too late, but I needed to... she knows who she is, and if she reads this... I hope she knows that I still think of her and still miss her daily.
So, enough of that sob story and moving along with my challenge!
Today, I called up one of my friends, Leslie, that I met online almost seven years ago. I haven't seen her since I was pregnant with D. I called her up, and just wanted to see how she is. I called her at such a bad time! Haha! She accidentally drove off with the gas pump in her car... and gas was overflowing. It was just crazy! I talked to her, tried to calm her down... which I think it did? Maybe? She definitely sounded calmer. It was a quick call, maybe 10-15 minutes. She was quite shocked to hear my voice, since we haven't talked on the phone for so long. We usually just e-mail. Either way, it was nice to hear her voice.
Not sure what I'm talking about? Meg Meeker, MD's The 10 Habits of Happy Mothers - Happy Mother Challenges
Here is my Happy Mother Challenge - Day 1.